Reflective

While we were at Bee's place, Bee got extremely angry with my youngest for knocking (Bees) drink over. My youngest tried to walk between a chair and a table, she is 2 and does not quite have the spacial concepts as an adult. When she tried to get between the table her belly knocked Bee's cups over and spilled the contents all over the floor. I attempted to explain the fact that my child doesn't quite grasp spacial concepts as say a 6 year old might and Bee argued the point with me - claiming my child knew what she was doing and knew better. Yes, my child knew she was pushing between the furniture; however I doubt she recognized that she was risking spilling the cup by doing so. Bee scolded my child which angered me considerably so after immediately cleaning up the meal mess I packed up the family and we left. I was so angry I did not want to be in the house with Bee anymore. I think had I have gotten up and brought my child over to explain to her not to walk between that chair and table before Bee had the opportunity to scold her then Bee might not have scolded as she did. In addition, it might have been better for me to calm down before trying to discuss with Bee why I felt she was over-reacting. I will try to use reflective listening skills, and empathy more often when in those situations. However it is hard for me to not over-react myself when I feel an injustice is being done to my child(ren).