So we have a "behavioral plan" with one of the kids - you know the deal, you do so many expected things you get a star and after X amount of stars you get a reward. Well the big reward was the kid got to have 40 mins of just daddy and kid time. The kid did really good last night and was looking forward to playing with him all day today. He however decided they were going to make dinner together. When I explained to him that our kid was supposed to be picking the activity he got pissy with me. I don't know why. I'm tired of trying to figure it out.
I want to tell him so badly that his reaction leaves the impression that he really doesn't value the kids ideas, that it feels like he is just "going through the motions". I can't even explain it properly, how can I expect the kid to?
And I know what it is. He wants to be able to play his game, but if he has to play with the kid for 40 mins and make dinner then he won't be able to play as much as he wants. Or at least that's how it feels. And I'm sure that's how the kid feels. My heart broke when the kid started to cry and tell him that making dinner wasn't the game plan - playing football was. He didn't listen, told the kid "I'm sorry I need help with dinner so that's how we're spending our 40 mins"
Grrrr
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